Monday, June 8, 2015

Pro-Choice: Whose Choice?

I want to apologize in advance for this post. I usually try to express my opinion in a way that is not judgmental. I try to explain my beliefs in a way that will get my point across and offend as few people as possible. I want to apologize because this subject is something I don't think I can take lightly. The truth is, I'm angry. 

Before we get into this I will go ahead and let you all know


I think it's only fair to give you that piece of information up-front, so you can judge if what I have to say will anger you and determine whether or not to keep reading. If you are pro-choice and choose to continue to read this, I hope you will understand my heart and where I am coming from. I hope you see that my views come from a place of love and the belief in the sanctity of life. They do not come from feelings of condemnation or judgement. Please understand that it is not my purpose to offend or upset. My purpose is to speak the truth, because sometimes truth is black and white. Sometimes what is true and what is right do not depend on who you are or what you believe in. Some things are absolute. 

I've never really understood why the belief that women have a right to dispose of the life growing inside of them is called pro-choice. What is the choice? Pro-choicers would say that the choice is the woman's choice as to whether or not she wants to have a child. I would argue that this decision was made well before she found out she was pregnant. 

Accidents happen. I get it. But whose fault is that? Is it the baby's fault?  It's not an unwanted side effect. It's a CHILD.

According to the CDC, half of the pregnancies in the US are unwanted. And of that half, 4 in 10 babies are aborted. There are roughly 1.21 million abortions each year in the US and by age 45, one third of American women will have had at least one abortion. 

One in three. That's crazy.

I do believe that women, or anyone for that matter, have the right to determine what happens to their body. But what about the baby's body? Where is that child's choice? We are taking away a human being's choice when we decide to take away his or her life. Why isn't an unborn child given a voice? Why do we assume that we can take the life of something just because we can't see it and we know that one day it may inconvenience us?

I guess the real question comes down to what you view as "life." Those in favor of the pro-choice debate will argue that a fetus is not the same thing as a baby. A fetus does not have the right to life because it is not yet alive. But what makes a person alive?

Google defines life as "the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death." From the moment of conception a fetus is growing. If that truly is what makes us alive, then life begins at conception. 

At conception the sperm fertilizes the egg. The cells immediately begin dividing and multiplying. Growth. It's what sets us apart from inorganic (nonliving) matter.

Conception = Life. Period. That isn't an opinion, it is a fact. If it wasn't a fact, then abortion wouldn't be one of the most heavily debated topics in the world today.

Most states have abortion restrictions. Over half prohibit abortions on babies who could technically survive outside of the womb (around 24 to 26 weeks). However, there are some states that have no restrictions on abortions, and a woman can get an abortion as late as days before she would naturally go into labor. 

I've heard several arguments in favor of abortion. Most of them are "what if" scenarios such as, "What if the mother was raped?" and "What if the baby or the mother are at a serious health risk?" So, I decided to look into it. According to the CDC here are the top 3 reasons why women decide to have an abortion.
  1. About 75% of women who have an abortion say the baby would interfere with work, school, or other responsibilities. 
  2. Another 75% of women say that they can't afford a baby.
  3. 50% of women say that they don't want to be a single parent or they are having issues with their spouse/partner.
What's worse . . . only 1% of women who have an abortion say that rape is the reason. Even if you take into account the fact that many women don't feel comfortable stating that reason, that number is extremely low. Only 10% say that a health issue is the reason for their abortion, and that statistic includes drug addiction in the mother as a health issue. 

When did we become so heartless as a society that we decided that you only have a right to your own body if you are a certain age? Babies don't count. They don't get to determine whether or not they live or die. What gives us the right to decide that someone else's life isn't worth saving because it would interfere with our lives to give a shit? 75% is a huge percentage of women who claim that they just can't be bothered with a baby. How dare that child grow inside them? How dare that child "interfere" with their lives? What an inconvenience! The blame is always placed on the innocent life growing inside instead of where it belongs. I know it sucks that something as small as forgetting to take a pill or a broken condom should have such huge and lasting effects, but that's life. 

We have become so calloused as a nation. Nothing affects us the way it used to. Sometimes that is a good thing, but in this case it is deplorable. Calling an unborn baby a fetus so that you don't have to feel guilty about what abortion really is doesn't change the fact that abortion is killing someone. Killing a human being while it is still inside the womb doesn't make it acceptable all of the sudden to take someone else's life. Life is life. Period. No matter whether that life is 65 years old, 65 days old, or just a 6 day old zygote that is growing into a child who will grow into an adult. There are too many viable alternatives to abortion to allow this to happen.

Psalm 139:13-16 says "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was made in that secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." God has a hand in every child from the moment he or she is conceived. "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart." (Jeremiah 1:5).
He has a plan and a purpose for everyone (Jeremiah 29:11). 

Christians, I am calling you out. If you believe in what the bible says and if you claim that Christ is the authority in your life then you have to be outraged at this. The bible makes it very clear that ALL life is sacred. Galatians 1:15 says "Even before I was born, God had chosen me to be his." He knows us before we are born. He created us in the womb. We have no right to play God. We have no right to take the life of an innocent human being. Just because you can't see something doesn't mean it's not there. Just because someone tells you that a fetus isn't a baby doesn't mean that it's true. 

Some things are absolute.

Some things are just flat out wrong.

If you believe in a woman's right to determine what happens to her own body then I challenge you to consider the body of the man or woman that child could grow to be. Abortion takes away that person's choice. Every choice that person would ever grow up and make is taken away in an instant.

If you have had an abortion and I have offended you, I want to apologize. That was not my intention. I do not believe you are a malicious or evil person, I believe that you have been deceived. Satan has a way of making bad things sound good. He uses outlets that we trust to convince us that something is right when it isn't. He is the Father of Lies and an expert at tricking people into making the wrong decision. 
If you are one of the 75% who were convinced that having a baby would interfere with your life, then my heart breaks for you and for that child. I am so sorry that you felt there was no other option. I wish someone had been there to tell you the truth. 
If you are one of the 10% who had an abortion because something was fatally wrong with you or your baby, my heart breaks for you in a different way. You may have wanted your child. You may have named him or her and prepared a place in your home. You may have been devastated when you found out that something was wrong. I am sorry for your loss. I understand how hard your decision must have been and I can't imagine what you went through. I may not agree with the decision you made, but that doesn't mean I am condemning you and it doesn't mean I am unsympathetic. 
If you are one of the 1% who had an abortion because you were raped, my heart breaks for you. I wish I could give you a hug and cry with you. I can't imagine the shame and fear you must feel. I do not believe your child should have had to pay for the sins of his father, but once again that does not mean that I condemn you. It does not mean that I don't hurt for what you went through.

You are not alone, and you are not unloved. Our society has taught us to do what we want and what we believe is right for us and ignore the needs of everyone else. What a cruel and selfish world we have created. Don't fall for it. We are made to love and be loved by our Creator. We are made to love each other.

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